A Letter to my BFF on her Birthday!

Dear Jewelry,

Over forty years ago I started fourth grade at a new school.  My twelfth school to be exact.  I had moved in with my grandparents after a very tumultuous few years of being bounced back and forth between my parents. I did not know a soul, I had a lot of baggage and was living in survival mode.

My fifty year old mind does not allow me to remember every detail of our meeting, but bits and pieces of talking with you in Mrs. Collette’s coat area about a boy seems to ring a bell.  I could write a novel about our adventures but suffice it to say we have run the gamute of emotions over a lifetime.  From dances, to break-ups, sleep-overs to seances, weddings to babies, we have done it all.

We truly have grown up together but have never grown apart.  I can go months without seeing you but as soon as we are together again we don’t skip a beat.  Our friendship is something I value more than you can ever know.

Sometimes I feel selfish.  You have been there with a listening ear and shoulder throughout our friendship and although I know you have to cringe from time to time when you see my number pop up on your phone, you never hesitate to answer and chat. You can read me like a book and always make a point to contact me in some way when you know I am struggling.

We have been busy raising our families but now that we will be empty nesters I look forward to spending lots of time together in our “Golden Years”  Let’s hope teens aren’t saying “You got an eye problem old lady” when they talk to us 😉

Just wanted you to know that you are loved and appreciated on your birthday and every day!




To My Husband on His Birthday

Today you are 50!  Unlike me, you face 50 with grace and confidence. No tears for you at this geriatric milestone.

Do you realize we have basically grown up together? Destiny definitely had a hand in our relationship!  When my brother and I moved in with our grandparents at the ripe old ages of 8 and 9 you and your sisters were our first friends in the neighborhood.  Of course I did not think much about you at that stage of the game, I mean you had cooties back then!

Fast forward to our teen years and suddenly you were pretty cute. We have been together ever since.  Life sure was easy then…..hanging out with friends, going to high school dances and walking around the block to see each other several times a week.

After high school we went our separate ways to college.  No one thought we would make it, surely we would both meet other people and the “puppy love” of high school would be forgotten. We proved them wrong, after college came marriage and then five years later came the “baby in the baby carriage,”

We were young and in love and we were invincible!

Two years later came our beautiful boy, we were the perfect little family living in suburbia!  As it became apparent that our little guy was going to face some difficulties in life, our “perfect little world” started to unravel. Many men would have headed for the hills!  And even though there have been days that we hang by a thread, through it all you face it it with courage, confidence, and determination.

I am sure on more than one occasion, folks have doubted that our marriage could withstand having a child with such significant needs. Hell, who are we kidding, we have questioned it ourselves! But here we are thirty five years later with twenty seven years of marriage under our belt and two beautiful children. It isn’t always pretty, but we continue to face tough times together.

We are OLDER and in love and INVINCIBLE!

Our children are so fortunate to have such an amazing and dedicated father.  I watch in awe of your gentle, patient nature and am so thankful and appreciative that you have always put family first.  I  can only wish that one day Emily  will meet a man as smart and kind, and down to earth as you.  My hope is that some day our grandchildren will have the type of father that she had growing up.

Today we celebrate you and all you have done for our family!  Happy Happy 50th XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO